Showing posts with label chinese. Show all posts
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Tuesday, February 19, 2013

你是怎麼弄丟了曾深愛的她的...

你是怎麼弄丟了曾深愛的她的

剛到手的時候疼人家到骨子裡去,每天給她打十幾個電話,發幾十條信息,她說什麼你都銘記在心,想吃什麼、想買什麼、想去哪裡你都會盡全力去滿足,溫柔體貼無微不至,巴不得二十四個小時都能跟她呆在一起;一開始總是包容的,就算她的生活習慣與你不同也會努力的調試配合,一切一切都是美好的……

  久了,膩了!每天別說幾十個電話,就連1個電話都懶得打,打電話時只說具體情況,把那些覺得無關要緊的“情趣”話都省了;信息就更不用說了,她發10條你回有一半你就覺得你回的已經夠多了,就連她打電話給你你都覺得她啰嗦!

  你不會再為她想吃早點而早早起床,你不會再為她排隊買她想要東西,你不會專門請假帶她去她想去的地方,你會覺得她什麼事都依賴著你,讓你覺得她麻煩事特多!

  接著你會發現她的缺點越來越多,她的優點快被她的缺點掩蓋,你快忍無可忍!最後,厭了!瀟灑的用“分手吧!”一句簡單的言語結束了復雜的感情;或耗著等著,直到有一天她受不了忽冷忽熱或若即若離的態度自己選擇離開,你還可以說是她自己離你而去,你沒有負心……

  男人,你記不記得你曾經說過:“我永遠都會對你這麼好,一輩子都這樣愛著你寵著你!”
  不是她麻煩事特多,是你一開始就說得做得太到位,才會讓她依賴上你!你記不記得你曾經說過:“不管多晚,睡不著都可以打電話給我,我的手機24小時都為你開機!”
  那你又嫌她不體貼,白天工作的時候打電話打擾到你,辛苦了一天晚上要睡覺了她還纏著你不肯掛線。是誰讓她養成何時何地想打電話給你就打電話給你的習慣?

  她無理取鬧。
  那是因為從某一個時間段你的態度變了,你開始冷落她了;讓她覺得沒了安全感,由使她起疑心!不是她不信任你,不給你空間,而是她愛你,在乎你,用盡所有時間去關心你,你的生活細微改變都牽扯著她的情緒!

  她脾氣不好。
  那是因為她有很多時候知道了很多事情,但你不說,她都選擇沉默,在一直沉默;積壓到一定的時間她們就會爆發心中的所有怨氣;要知道,這一些都不是她脾氣不好,是你不夠細心發覺,她們是一直積壓下來的!

  她不再跟以前一樣動人。
  當初是誰說不喜歡她每天變化多端像只花蝴蝶,是誰說喜歡她素顏的清純模樣?雖說喜新厭舊是人性,除了毛主席跟古董以外,什麼東西看久了都會審美疲勞;但她不是東西,她是個活生生有著感情的人!

  你不再給她答案,不再給她承諾,不希望你以後做不到讓這些答案跟承諾變成謊言!
  那你以前又給她那麼多答案,給她那麼多承諾,現在為自己鋪好後路可以前承諾過的叫她怎麼忘記?女人不怕諾言沒實現,怕的是你承諾了又不去實現,最後實不實現是另一個問題!

  你忙,你沒時間沒精力討好她,你不知道她現在在想什麼?
  那你以前不忙嗎?你以前是不是就把全部時間用來討好她而不用工作?那你以前怎麼都那麼細心觀察她在想什麼?

  你覺得你們不配,你不想她再浪費感情在這段沒結果的愛情上。那你一開始追她干嘛?做實驗啊?她都已經浪費這麼多感情了,你當感情是水龍頭啊,說開就開說關就關!對,這一切都是你給自己找的借口!別以為換個女朋友就可以永遠擺脫那種感情暗淡時期,因為不久的將來你還是得回到這種時光,下個女朋友也是,下下個女朋友也是,下下下個女朋友也是,有種你一輩子不談戀愛不結婚……

  男人們,看完了回想一下你們的那段美好時光,趁現在沒有人偷偷想想是不是你們給自己找借口了?那個以前深愛的女人現在就那麼不值得你愛了麼?別說你瞎了狗眼以前才會跟她在一起,因為你沒瞎,也請不要侮辱到狗!後悔分手的趕快努力從新追回來,以後用心經營著共有的感情!其實女人要的很簡單,只想要一個愛自己男人就夠了……想要分手的考慮清楚,並不是每段感情都可以挽回的!考慮太久也不行,因為她們可以忍耐你冷落她一段時間,但不會一輩子傻下去;她們再怎麼傻,也會給自己一個時間段,去忍受你的冷落,去相信你的愛;但時間一到,她們會毫不猶豫的離開,到那時再多的甜言蜜語都沒有用了,因為這世界上沒有誰離開誰就活不了!

  戀愛中的,好好珍惜現在那個願意照顧你,體諒你,願意陪你承擔風雨的傻女人吧!過了這個村,或許就沒這個店了……

  到時間結婚的就結婚吧,不要再拖拖拉拉婆婆媽媽;結婚證一領就像買了保險,至少心裡都有底了……

  愛情,就像煮粥!滾燙的時候加點配料它就是夠火候又有滋有味的;等到忘記關火煮焦了的時候,你聞都不想聞它甚至你連鍋都想把它扔了……

  看好你的火吧。
  我只能說……我看了痛哭啊……


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Friday, September 28, 2012

Hideous Fights

It's really funny how things always turns out. I mean one second you can be talking about the sweetest thing with your love one and the next second you could be in total breakdown from arguing. The most interesting thing is how the smallest argument can become a big fight if you don't contain it. I mean oh okay, its normal to have arguement once in a while, because a couple without  argument  are like apple candy without the stick, it's impossible to become perfect! And you know what I mean! I didnt actially mean perfect perfect, I just meant perfect enough to last long. Perfect couples never exist, only ones that are close to perfect exisit.
Its often like what they say in Chinese culture, "打是情罵是愛", like how should I say it? If translating it directly, it should be hit is feeling and nagging/yelling is love. Its quite a cute phrase that my boyfriend tend to use as excuse sometimes.
I understand that fighting is essential in an relationship, but when you have two dominate ones in a relationship, and none of them back off, and with all the stubborness acquired, its almost impossible to separate those two and prevent them from fighting. Like honestly, for one to stop fighting its either one have to back up a step or they both do it at the same time or else it wouldn't stop.
To be honest, sometimes i even question myself, am I the one at the fault? Am I the one that did the wrongs? This is true for everyone, but when you get angry, you tend to make decision without second thoughts of the consequence  And most of the time it leads to terrible after shock. And sometimes regretful pain. I mean you can be reading this now and not take any of this in, or thinking, oh this will never happen to me, or I will change, but trust me, that's just the thought before you're actually angry. I mean when you actually get angry that's a different thing, trust me, you wouldn't completely do all the things you have told yourself to do beforehead.

Am I crazy for writing my first blog at 2:01 AM on a school day when there's a quiz tomorrow for my 5 unit Japanese Class? Yeah I am definitely crazy alright.
Well that's it for now,

best wishes readers!
-Jenny (: